When we were talking about how Adam doesn't talk much, Dad told me he remembers how he didn't talk much either, but he was sitting in his grandparents backyard one day and just started talking up a storm. Now, my Dad has long maintained that he has a super far back memory. but as he's also known for his "stories", not sure where to believe on this one. haha
Dad had been originally supposed to come see me, but the night before Mom had told me he had said he didn't think he'd be up to it. It was a walk-up call for me...in the couple days prior...I had half convinced myself things weren't so bad.
My back hurts really bad right now. One of the worst pains...walking across the room required a lot of effort...I need it to be OK...I have too much to do to be laid up. The A-Team won't allow it.
On Friday, I did not go over but I talked to my Dad...I don't remember exactly what about. It's been hard to remember today what has happened when and what has been said when in the last week or so....
I know Carolyn arrived around 10am Saturday morning and I brought the kids over shortly thereafter. Sissy was in her pjs, cool looking tropical pants and a turquoise top that stands out in my head. Todd stayed home, exhausted. Sissy was cooking and Adam immediately got attention as they tried to get him to eat. My Mom gave him a half of English Muffin cinnamon raisin style he devoured it and got so into it, mom had to make him more. Dad was holding Abbey and I ate a one eff omelet, wishing that I had had more as it was so good.
I left a couple hours later, kids needed their naps and I wanted to give my sister the chance to spend time with Dad. I talked to him later on the phone and he was talking about mom. I told him that she would not be allowed to sit in the house and never leave, I wouldn't let it happen. He said thank you for telling me that...I have been thinking about that..
I noticed right off that Carolyn was acting like it was a regular day. Not sure how to take that, but I've thus decided it's a good thing. Dad doesn't need to be treated like he's already gone.
There's more to tell but I'm tired and in pain. I'll say that for now, m Dad looked like a brain cancer patient today. He was half out of it. After looking the best he had had for weeks yesterday when we took them all out to Mimi's. Reality checks...as a wise woman has said...there's no way through this but right through the middle. So well said. My dad is sad, I can tell. Alex asked him if he could still build him a treehouse this summer. Dad looked down and off and said yeah, probably later this summer. He wanted to believe it, I could tell.
Abbey liked her Uncle Eric
Adam LOVES to pull books off Grandma's bookshelf...she let him at first so it's taking some time to teach him...otherwise!
Alex and Logan showing off their Tae Kwon Do moves!
This reminds me of how we go through the world not really hearing things. But now, I can tell you are really hearing all of your dad's stories. I think he needs you around as much as you need him right now. It's every storyteller's dream come true to have a listener who really hears them.
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